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Recently, a friend asked me about tonsil stones. He has sore throats several times a year, which are instantly relieved by gargling to remove them. When I told him I thought tonsil stones were pretty rare, he asked: “Are you sure about that? My ear, nose, and throat doctor says they’re common as rocks.” (Get it? stones? rocks?)

It turns out, my friend and his doctor are on to something. Tonsil stones are surprisingly common and often quite annoying. Here’s what to know and do.

What are tonsil stones?

Tonsil stones (medical term: tonsilloliths) are small white or yellow deposits on the tonsils. They develop when bacteria, saliva, food particles, and debris from cells lining the mouth get trapped in tiny indentations called crypts.

They vary considerably between people, including:

• Size. They may be so small that you can’t see them with the naked eye. Or they may grow to the size of gravel or, rarely, much larger.
• Consistency. They’re often soft but may calcify, becoming hard as a rock. Hence, the name.
• How long they last. Tonsil stones can last days to weeks, or may persist far longer before they break up and fall out.
• How often they occur. New tonsilloliths may appear several times each month or just once or twice a year.

While they’re more likely to form if you have poor oral hygiene, good oral hygiene doesn’t provide complete protection. Even those who brush, floss, and see their dentists regularly can develop tonsil stones.

How common are tonsil stones?

You’ve heard of kidney stones and gallstones, right? Clearly, those conditions are better known than tonsil stones. Yet tonsil stones are far more common: studies suggest that up to 40% of the population have them. Fortunately, unlike kidney stones and gallstones, tonsil stones are usually harmless.

What are the symptoms of tonsil stones?

Often people have no symptoms. In fact, if tonsil stones are small enough, you may not even know you have them. When tonsil stones do cause symptoms, the most common ones are:

• sore throat, or an irritation that feels as though something is stuck in the throat
• bad breath
• cough
• discomfort with swallowing
• throat infections.

Who gets tonsil stones?

Anyone who has tonsils can get them. However, some people are more likely than others to form tonsil stones, including those who

• have tonsils with lots of indentations and irregular surfaces rather than a smooth surface
• smoke
• drink lots of sugary beverages
• have poor oral hygiene
• have a family history of tonsil stones.

How are tonsil stones treated?

That depends on whether you have symptoms and how severe the symptoms are.

• If you have no symptoms, tonsil stones may require no treatment.
• If you do have symptoms, gargling with salt water or removing tonsil stones with a cotton swab or a water flosser usually helps. Avoid trying to remove them with sharp, firm objects like a toothpick or a pen, as that can damage your throat or tonsils.
• If your tonsils are inflamed, swollen, or infected, your doctor may prescribe antibiotics or anti-inflammatory medications.

Is surgery ever necessary?

Occasionally, surgery may be warranted. It’s generally reserved for people with severe symptoms or frequent infections who don’t improve with the measures mentioned above.

Surgical options are:

• tonsillectomy, which is removing the tonsils
• cryptolysis, which uses laser, electrical current, or radio waves to smooth the deep indentations in tonsils that allow stones to form.

Can tonsil stones be prevented?

Yes, there are ways to reduce the risk that tonsil stones will recur. Experts recommend the following:

• Brush your teeth and tongue regularly (at least twice a day: in the morning and before sleep).
• Floss regularly.
• Gargle with salt water after eating.
• Eliminate foods and drinks that contain a lot of sugar, which feeds bacteria that can help stones form.
• Don’t smoke, because smoking irritates and inflames tonsils, which can encourage stone formation. The same may apply to vaping, though there is limited research to rely upon.

The bottom line

Considering how common tonsil stones are and how bothersome they can be, it seems strange that they aren’t more well known. Maybe that’s because they often get better on their own, or people figure out how to deal with them without needing medical attention.

I hope you aren’t one of the many millions of people bothered by tonsil stones. But if you are, it’s good to know that they’re generally harmless and can be readily treated and prevented.

Now that you know more about them, feel free to spread the word: tonsil stones should be a secret no more.

About the Author

Robert H. Shmerling, MD, Senior Faculty Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Robert H. Shmerling is the former clinical chief of the division of rheumatology at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center (BIDMC), and is a current member of the corresponding faculty in medicine at Harvard Medical School. … See Full Bio View all posts by Robert H. Shmerling, MD

It’s easy to say you simply don’t have time to be mindful. With so much going on in daily life, who has time to stop and be present? But everyone has at least 10 minutes to spare to practice mindfulness.

The point of these brief, daily reflections is to help you tap into calmness whenever life gets too hairy. Practicing everyday mindfulness can also improve your memory and concentration skills and help you feel less distracted and better able to manage stress . And mindfulness tools have been successfully incorporated into treatments for anxiety and depression.

There is more than one way to practice mindfulness. Still, any mindfulness technique aims to achieve a state of alert, focused, relaxed consciousness by deliberately paying attention to thoughts and sensations without passing judgment on them. This allows the mind to focus on the present moment with an attitude of acceptance.

Three easy mindfulness exercises to try

Here are three simple exercises you can try whenever you need a mental break, emotional lift, or just want to pause and appreciate everything around you. Devote 10 minutes a day to them and see how the experience changes your outlook. It’s time well spent.

Simple meditation

A quick and easy meditation is an excellent place to begin practicing mindfulness.

• Sit on a straight-backed chair or cross-legged on the floor.
• Focus on an aspect of your breathing, such as the sensations of air flowing into your nostrils and out of your mouth, or your belly rising and falling as you inhale and exhale.
• Once you’ve narrowed your concentration in this way, begin to widen your focus. Become aware of sounds, sensations, and ideas. Embrace and consider each without judgment.
• If your mind starts to race, return your focus to your breathing. Then expand your awareness again.
• Take as much time as you like: one minute, or five, or 10 — whatever you’re comfortable with. Experts in mindfulness meditation note that the practice is most helpful if you commit to a regular meditation schedule.

Open awareness

Another approach to mindfulness is “open awareness,” which helps you stay in the present and truly participate in specific moments in life. You can choose any task or moment to practice open awareness, such as eating, taking a walk, showering, cooking a meal, or working in the garden. When you are engaged in these and other similar routine activities, follow these steps.

• Bring your attention to the sensations in your body, both physical and emotional.
• Breathe in through your nose, allowing the air to fill your lungs. Let your abdomen expand fully. Then breathe out slowly through your mouth.
• Carry on with the task at hand, slowly and with deliberation.
• Engage each of your senses, paying close attention to what you can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.
• Try “single-tasking,” bringing your attention as fully as possible to what you’re doing.
• Allow any thoughts or emotions that arise to come and go, like clouds passing through the sky.
• If your mind wanders away from your current task, gently refocus your attention back to the sensation of the moment.

Body awareness

Another way to practice mindfulness is to focus your attention on other thoughts, objects, and sensations. While sitting quietly with your eyes closed, channel your awareness toward each of the following:

• Sensations: Notice subtle feelings such as an itch or tingling without judgment, and let them pass. Notice each part of your body in succession from head to toe.
• Sights and sounds: Notice sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches. Name them “sight,” “sound,” “smell,” “taste,” or “touch” without judgment and let them go.
• Emotions: Allow emotions to be present without judging them. Practice a steady and relaxed naming of emotions: “joy,” “anger,” “frustration.”
• Urges: When you feel a craving or an urge (for instance, to eat excess food or practice an unwanted behavior), acknowledge the desire and understand that it will pass. Notice how your body feels as the craving enters. Replace the wish for the craving to go away with the specific knowledge that it will subside.

About the Author

Matthew Solan, Executive Editor, Harvard Men's Health Watch

Matthew Solan is the executive editor of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. He previously served as executive editor for UCLA Health’s Healthy Years and as a contributor to Duke Medicine’s Health News and Weill Cornell Medical College’s … See Full Bio View all posts by Matthew Solan

About the Reviewer

Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Howard LeWine is a practicing internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing, and editor in chief of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. See Full Bio View all posts by Howard E. LeWine, MD

When you live in a coastal area, preparing early for potential hurricanes is a must. Storms can develop quickly, leaving little time to figure out where you’ll be safe or which items to pack if you have to evacuate. And health care necessities, such as medications or medical equipment, are often overlooked in the scramble.

“People might bring their diabetes medication but forget their blood sugar monitor, or bring their hearing aids but forget extra batteries for them,” says Dr. Scott Goldberg, medical director of emergency preparedness at Brigham and Women’s Hospital and a longtime member of a FEMA task force that responds to hurricane-damaged areas.

Here’s some insight on what to expect this hurricane season, and how to prioritize health care in your hurricane kit.

What will the 2024 hurricane season look like?

This year’s hurricane predictions underscore the urgency to start preparations now.

Forecasters with the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration's National Weather Service expect above-normal activity for the 2024 hurricane season (which lasts until November 30).

Meteorologists anticipate 17 to 25 storms with winds of 39 mph or higher, including eight to 13 hurricanes — four to seven of which could be major hurricanes with 111 mph winds or higher.

What kinds of plans should you make?

Preparing for the possibility of big storms is a major undertaking. Long before ferocious winds and torrential rains arrive, you must gather hurricane supplies, figure out how to secure your home, and determine where to go if you need to evacuate (especially if you live in a flood zone). Contact the emergency management department at your city or county for shelter information.

If you’ll need help evacuating due to a medical condition, or if you’ll need medical assistance at a shelter, find out if your county or city has a special needs registry like this one in Florida. Signing up will enable first responders to notify you about storms and transport you to a special shelter that has medical staff, hospital cots, and possibly oxygen tanks.

What should you pack?

While a shelter provides a safe place to ride out a storm, including bathrooms, water, and basic meals, it’s up to you to bring everything else. It’s essential to pack medical equipment and sufficient medications and health supplies.

“It’s natural to just grab the prescription medications in your medicine cabinet, but what if it’s only a two-day supply? It might be a while before you can get a refill. We recommend at least a 14-day or 30-day supply of every prescription,” Dr. Goldberg says. “Talk to your doctor about the possibility of getting an extra refill to keep on standby for your go bag.”

Other health-related items you’ll want to pack include:

• medical supplies you use regularly, such as a blood pressure monitor, heart monitor, CPAP machine, wheelchair, or walker
• over-the-counter medicines you use regularly, such as heartburn medicine or pain relievers
• foods for specific dietary needs, such as gluten-free food if you have celiac disease (if you have infants or children, you’ll need to bring foods they can eat)
• healthy, nonperishable snacks such as nuts, nut butters, trail mix, dried fruit, granola bars, protein bars, and whole-grain bread, crackers, or cereals
• hygiene products such as soap, hand sanitizer, toothbrushes and toothpaste, shampoo, deodorant, infant or adult diapers, lip balm, moist towelettes, and toilet paper — because shelters often run out of it.

Remember the basics

In some ways, you can think of shelter living like camping. You’ll need lots of basic supplies to get through it, including:

• a sleeping bag or blanket and pillow for each person in your family
• clean towels and washcloths
• a few extra changes of clothes per person
• a first-aid kit
• flashlights and extra batteries
• chargers for your electronic gadgets
• rechargeable battery packs.

Bring important paperwork

In addition to supplies, bring important documents such as:

• a list of your medications, vitamins, and supplements (include the name, dose, and frequency of each one)
• a list of the names, addresses, and phone numbers of your primary care provider and any specialists who treat you
• a list of your emergency contacts and their phone numbers
• your pharmacy’s phone number and address
• copies of your birth certificate and driver’s license
• copies of home, car, or life insurance policies
• copies of your health insurance cards
• a copy of your advance directive — which includes your living will and health care proxy form.

“Store these documents on a flash drive. Also make photocopies of them, which are easiest for doctors to consult in an emergency setting. Place them in a plastic zip-top bag to keep them dry,” Dr. Goldberg advises.

Prepare right now

Start today. Gather as many go-bag supplies as you can, including the bags. A small suitcase, backpack, or duffel bag for each person in your family will work well.

And try not to put off these important preparations. “Hurricanes are major stressors. You might be worried, sleep deprived, fatigued, and emotional,” Dr. Goldberg says. “All of that will make it hard to think clearly. You’ll do yourself and your family a favor by having discussions now and getting started on your hurricane plan.”

About the Author

Heidi Godman, Executive Editor, Harvard Health Letter

Heidi Godman is the executive editor of the Harvard Health Letter. Before coming to the Health Letter, she was an award-winning television news anchor and medical reporter for 25 years. Heidi was named a journalism fellow … See Full Bio View all posts by Heidi Godman

About the Reviewer

Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Howard LeWine is a practicing internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing, and editor in chief of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. See Full Bio View all posts by Howard E. LeWine, MD

The daily bath or shower is a routine for many of us — and for our children, too. But is it really necessary?

The short answer is no.

Obviously, there are days when washing up makes good sense — like if your child is grimy from a day in the dirt; covered in sweat, paint, or other visible dirt; or had an explosive poop. It’s also a good idea to wash up if your child has spent the day in a pool (the chlorine may be irritating to the skin), a body of water (there could be things in the water that are irritating or unhealthy), or used bug spray to ward off ticks and mosquitoes. And certainly, it’s best for everyone in the vicinity when a stinky teenager takes a soapy shower.

Sometimes a doctor may recommend daily bathing for certain skin conditions. And we all need to wash our hands regularly to prevent infection. But full-body washing just for the sake of washing? Not so much.

Why not bathe a child daily?

Lots of bathing can lead to dry, irritated skin. But also, the skin has natural protective oils, and natural bacteria, that help to keep us healthy and safe — and that can get washed away with daily bathing.

If your baby or preteen looks pretty clean, isn’t stinky, isn’t covered in bug spray, and hasn’t been in a pool or other body of water, it’s fine to skip the bath or shower. Really, bathing two or three times a week is fine. In fact, for many kids, even just once or twice a week is fine. You can always do a quick wipe with a wet washcloth to the face, groin area, and any dirty spots.

Stinky teenagers might need more bathing or showering, depending on activity level and deodorant use. But even they may be able to get away with washing their face and using a soapy washcloth on their groin and underarms.

Tips for healthy bathing

When you do bathe children, here are some tips for healthy bathing.

• Don’t use hot water — use warm water instead.
• Keep it short — preferably just enough time to get the washing done.
• Avoid antibacterial soaps and bubble baths. Use mild, unscented soap and shampoo.
• Make sure bathing is supervised for all babies and young children.
• Pat dry rather than rubbing dry. If your child tends to have dry skin, using a mild, unscented greasy moisturizer after the bath can be helpful.

If your child has eczema or any other skin condition, check with your doctor to get tailored advice for bathing your child.

About the Author

Claire McCarthy, MD, Senior Faculty Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

Claire McCarthy, MD, is a primary care pediatrician at Boston Children’s Hospital, and an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School. In addition to being a senior faculty editor for Harvard Health Publishing, Dr. McCarthy … See Full Bio View all posts by Claire McCarthy, MD

It’s an unfortunate reality: all medicines can cause side effects. While there are a few tried-and-true ways to deal with drug side effects, here’s a less common option to consider: adding a second medication.

That’s the approach taken with valbenazine (Ingrezza), a drug approved for a condition called tardive dyskinesia that’s caused by certain medicines, most of which are for mental health. Let’s dive into what TD is, how this drug is advertised, and what else to consider if a medicine you take causes TD.

What is tardive dyskinesia?

Tardive dyskinesia (TD) is a condition marked by involuntary movements of the face or limbs, such as rapid eye blinking, grimacing, or pushing out the tongue. TD is caused by long-term use of certain drugs, many of which treat psychosis.

TD may be irreversible. Early recognition is key to improvement and preventing symptoms from getting worse. If you take antipsychotic medicines or other drugs that can cause TD, tell your prescribing health care provider right away about any worrisome symptoms.

A sidewalk sale, a cookout in the park, and a pitch

One ad for Ingrezza starts with a young man working with customers at a sidewalk sale. Though his mental health is much better, he says, now he’s suffering with TD, a condition “that can be caused by some mental health meds.” A spotlight shines on his hands as he fumbles and drops an instant camera he’s selling. He seems embarrassed and his customers look perplexed.

Next we see a young woman at a cookout in a park. The mysterious spotlight is trained on her face as she blinks and grimaces involuntarily. Her voiceover explains that she feels like her involuntary movements are “always in the spotlight.”

Later these two happily interact with others, their movement problems much improved. A voiceover tells us Ingrezza is the #1 treatment for adults with TD. The dose — “always one pill, once a day” — can improve unwanted movements in seven out of 10 people. And people taking Ingrezza can stay on most mental health meds.

That’s the pitch. The downsides come next.

What are the side effects of this drug to control a side effect?

As required by the FDA, the ad lists common and serious side effects of Ingrezza, including

• sleepiness (the most common side effect)
• depression, suicidal thoughts, or actions
• heart rhythm problems
• allergic reactions, which can be life-threatening
• fevers, stiff muscles, or problems thinking, which may be life threatening
• abnormal movements.

That’s right, one possible side effect is abnormal movements — a symptom this drug is supposed to treat!

What the ad gets right

The ad

• appropriately highlights TD as a troubling yet treatable condition that can cause stress and embarrassment and affect a person’s ability to function
• emphasizes once-daily dosing, presumably because the recommended frequency of a competitor’s drug for TD is twice daily
• shares clinical studies that support effectiveness claims
• covers many of the most common and serious side effects.

What else should you know?

Unfortunately, the ad skims over — or entirely skips — some important details. Below are a few examples.

Which medicines cause TD?

We never learn which medicines can cause TD (especially when used long-term), which seems vital to know. Many, but not all, are used to help treat certain mental health disorders, such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. Here are some of the most common.

Mental health medicines:

• haloperidol (Haldol)
• fluphenazine (Prolixin)
• risperidone (Risperdal)
• olanzapine (Zyprexa).

Other types of medicines:

• metoclopramide (Reglan), which may be prescribed for nausea, hiccups, and a stomach problem called gastroparesis
• prochlorperazine (Compazine, Compro), most often prescribed for severe nausea, migraine headaches, or vertigo.

Also, the ad never explains that TD may be irreversible regardless of treatment. Because improvement is most likely if caught early, it’s important for people taking these medicines to check in with their health provider if they notice TD symptoms described above — especially if symptoms are growing worse.

What about effectiveness and cost?

Seven in 10 people reported that their symptoms improved, according to the ad. How much improvement? That wasn’t shared. But here’s what I found in a key study:

• Among 202 study participants with TD, only 24% reported having minimal or no symptoms of TD after six weeks of treatment with Ingrezza.
• Up to 67% of study subjects reported smaller improvements in symptoms.

What happens after six weeks? A few small follow-up studies suggest that some people who continue taking Ingrezza may improve further over time.

And the cost? That’s also never mentioned in the ad. It’s about $8,700 a month. No details on the financial assistance program, or who qualifies for free treatment, are provided.

Are there other ways to manage TD?

Well, yes. But the ad doesn’t mention those either. Three approaches to discuss with your healthcare provider are:

• Avoid drugs known to cause TD when other options are available.
• If you need to take these medicines, it’s safest to use the lowest effective dose for the shortest time possible. For example, limiting metoclopramide to less than three months lowers risk for TD.
• If you notice TD symptoms, ask about lowering the dose or stopping the offending drug right away. This may successfully reverse, or reduce, the symptoms.

If you have TD, you and your health care provider can consider several options:

• whether other drug treatments for TD not mentioned in the ad, such as deutetrabenazine (Austedo) or tetrabenazine (Xenazine), might cost less or minimize bothersome side effects
• botulinum toxin injections (Botox), which can relax the muscle contractions causing involuntary movements
• deep brain stimulation, which involves electrical stimulation to certain areas of the brain to interrupt nerve signals to abnormally contracting muscles.

The bottom line

The idea of treating a drug’s side effect with another drug may not be appealing. Certainly, it makes sense to try other options first.

But sometimes there are no better options. It’s always worth asking whether a treatment is worse than the disease. But TD is one situation in which all options — including a drug treatment for another drug’s side effects — are well worth considering.

About the Author

Robert H. Shmerling, MD, Senior Faculty Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Robert H. Shmerling is the former clinical chief of the division of rheumatology at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center (BIDMC), and is a current member of the corresponding faculty in medicine at Harvard Medical School. … See Full Bio View all posts by Robert H. Shmerling, MD

Trouble staying focused and paying attention are two familiar symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), a common health issue among children and teens.

When ADHD persists through early adulthood and on into middle age, it presents many of the same challenges it does in childhood: it’s hard to stay organized, start projects, stay on task, and meet deadlines. But now life is busier, and often expectations from work and family are even higher. Fortunately, there are lots of strategies that can help you navigate this time in your life.

Staying organized

Organizational tools are a must for people with adult ADHD. They’ll help you prioritize and track activities for each day or the coming weeks.

• Pick the right tools. Tools can include a pen and paper to make lists, or computer or smartphone apps to set appointment reminders, highlight important days on the calendar, mark deadlines, and keep lists and other information handy.
• Schedule updates. Set aside time each day to update your lists and schedules. Don’t let the task become a chore in itself; think of it like a routine task such as brushing your teeth, and do it daily so it becomes an established habit.
• Set a timer. And a word of caution: smartphones and computers can also turn into a distraction. If you have adult ADHD, you may find yourself spending hours looking at less useful apps or sites. If that’s a frequent trap for you, set a timer for each use or keep the phone off or in another room when you are trying to work.

Staying focused

Just being organized doesn’t mean your work will get done. But a few simple approaches can at least make it easier to do the work.

• Declutter your home and office. Give yourself an appealing work environment and keep important items easily accessible.
• Reduce distractions. This could mean changing your workstation so it doesn’t face a window, moving to a quieter space, or just silencing your smartphone and email alerts.
• Jot down ideas as they come to you. You may have an “aha” moment for one task while you’re in the middle of another. That’s okay; just write down that thought and get back to it later, after your more pressing work is finished.

Meeting deadlines

Deadlines pose two big challenges when you have adult ADHD. First, it’s hard to start a project, often because you want it to be perfect, or you’re intimidated by it so you put it off. Second, when you do start a project, it’s very easy to become distracted and leave the task unfinished.

How can you avoid these traps?

• Put off procrastinating. Put procrastination on your to-do list — like a chore — and fool yourself into actually starting your work.
• Deal with emails, phone calls, or other matters as soon as you can. That way there will be fewer things hanging over your head and overwhelming you later on.
• Be a clock watcher. Get a watch and get in the habit of using it. The more aware you are of time, the more likely you’ll be able to avoid spending too long on a task.
• Take one thing at a time. Multitasking is overrated for everyone — and it’s a nightmare for people with adult ADHD. Focus on completing one task, then move on to the next.
• Be realistic about your time. This can mean having to say no to new projects or other commitments.

Get more help

The ideas listed here can help you start coping with adult ADHD, but they may not be enough to help you overcome adult ADHD’s challenges.

Consider hiring an ADHD coach who can provide more strategies and give you additional tools to cope with your condition. Look for an ADHD coach who is a licensed mental health professional who specializes in treating ADHD, and may also have a certification in ADHD coaching from the ADHD Coaches Organization.

About the Author

Heidi Godman, Executive Editor, Harvard Health Letter

Heidi Godman is the executive editor of the Harvard Health Letter. Before coming to the Health Letter, she was an award-winning television news anchor and medical reporter for 25 years. Heidi was named a journalism fellow … See Full Bio View all posts by Heidi Godman

About the Reviewer

Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Howard LeWine is a practicing internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing, and editor in chief of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. See Full Bio View all posts by Howard E. LeWine, MD

When experts talk about the dangers of excessive drinking, we often assume those warnings apply mostly to people with alcohol use disorder, a health issue sometimes referred to as alcoholism.

But people who don’t meet formal criteria for this disorder can still experience toxic effects and suffer other serious harms from alcohol, says Dr. John F. Kelly, professor of psychiatry in addiction medicine at Harvard Medical School. And as research turns up new evidence about alcohol, many people are considering the benefits of drinking less, even if they’re not ready to stop imbibing entirely.

How does alcohol affect the body?

That depends on how much you drink. Drinking more than moderate amounts of alcohol (defined as one drink per day for women and two for men) increases your risk for developing

• liver disease
• several types of cancer including breast, liver, and colon cancer
• cardiovascular problems such as high blood pressure and atrial fibrillation.

What if you’re not drinking daily? “Even people who only drink on weekends can have serious accidents if they become intoxicated — for example, by falling or driving under the influence,” says Dr. Kelly.

What’s more, growing evidence suggests that even small amounts of alcohol may harm your health.

How could cutting down on alcohol help you?

If you’re not ready to give up drinking entirely, cutting back can lower the likelihood of all of these harms. For example, cutting down on alcohol, or stopping entirely, is linked with lower cancer risks, according to a report from the American Association for Cancer Research.

You might also notice some immediate benefits, like sleeping more soundly, memory improvements, and generally feeling more mentally sharp. And because you’ll be taking in fewer calories, you may also shed some weight.

Ready to try cutting back on alcohol? Start here

These five suggestions are a great way to start cutting back.

Keep a drinking diary

Tracking how much alcohol you drink and when can help you target your efforts to drink less. It’s also a good idea to put your reasons for cutting back in writing: for example, “I’d like to sleep better,” “I feel sharper,” “Better heart health is important to me.” That practice can reinforce your resolve to follow through with your plan.

Try alcohol-free days — or even a month of not drinking

Taking a break from alcohol can be a good way to start, allowing your brain and body to recalibrate. Decide not to drink a day or two each week. You may want to abstain for a week or a month, to see how you feel physically and emotionally without alcohol in your life. Consider doing Sober October — a variation of Dry January.

Drink slowly and with food

Sip your drink. Alternate alcoholic drinks with nonalcoholic alternatives like sparkling water, soda, or juice. Don’t drink on an empty stomach, because you’ll feel intoxicated more quickly. That can lower your inhibitions and break your resolve to stick to lower amounts of alcohol, Dr. Kelly says. Drinking with a meal slows alcohol absorption and appears to minimize the drug’s health risks.

Try low-alcohol or zero-alcohol substitutes

Alcohol-free beer, nonalcoholic distilled spirits, and similar products have become more widely available in recent years. It’s a result of the alcohol industry’s response to stay profitable, as health harms of small amounts of alcohol have been confirmed and the sober curious movement gains momentum.

If you drink beer, wine spritzers, hard seltzer, or similar products, check the alcohol content

While light beers have fewer calories, they don’t necessarily have much less alcohol than regular beer. The average light beer is about 4.3% alcohol, versus 5.0% in regular beer.

Also, be aware that some craft or specialty beers contain far higher amounts of alcohol — up to 12% or 14% or even higher. Beverages that combine wine or hard liquor with seltzer or other mixers also vary widely in their alcohol content.

Cut down on temptation

Two more tips can help you meet success when changing drinking habits.

Don’t keep alcohol in your house. Making your home an alcohol-free zone takes away the risk of immediate temptation.

Avoid temptation. Steer clear of people and places that make you want to drink. If you associate drinking with certain events, such as holidays or vacations, make a plan for managing these situations in advance. Check in with your feelings. When you’re worried, lonely, or angry, you might be tempted to reach for a drink. “Think about other ways you might alleviate those feelings, such as going for a walk or calling a friend,” Dr. Kelly suggests.

Finally, try this interactive tool from the CDC, which can help you make a personalized plan to drink less.

About the Author

Julie Corliss, Executive Editor, Harvard Heart Letter

Julie Corliss is the executive editor of the Harvard Heart Letter. Before working at Harvard, she was a medical writer and editor at HealthNews, a consumer newsletter affiliated with The New England Journal of Medicine. She … See Full Bio View all posts by Julie Corliss

About the Reviewer

Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing; Editorial Advisory Board Member, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Howard LeWine is a practicing internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing, and editor in chief of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. See Full Bio View all posts by Howard E. LeWine, MD

“Sleep is still most perfect… when it is shared with a beloved,” wrote D.H. Lawrence, and most young children would agree. But sometimes those beloved — that is, parents — would rather have some privacy and not be woken by a kicking child all night.

So what can you do?

Sleep-alone campaign step one: Understanding

Before you do anything, be sure you understand why your child wants to sleep with you. It’s most likely simply because they love you and feel most secure snuggled next to you, but before you work to change the habit, be sure that your child is ready for — and can handle — the change. If your child has been more clingy or irritable than usual, or is having difficult behaviors in any way, touch base with your doctor.

Sleep-alone campaign step two: Changing habits

Changing where your child sleeps is changing a habit. When it comes to changing habits, it helps to be practical and — this is really important — consistent. Here are some tips:

• Make an appealing sleep space for your child. Not that anything can really take the place of you, but it is certainly easier to get them to stay in their own room or space if they like it there. Work with them to set up and decorate in a way they like.
• As you create the space, keep in mind what keeps your child awake. If it’s light, use room-darkening curtains. If it’s darkness, think night lights and flashlights. If it’s noise, think about getting a white-noise machine. Set your child up for success. Please: no TVs or devices in the bedroom. They get in the way of healthy sleep.
• Have a consistent bedtime. Try not to let your child stay up late — or sleep late — on weekends. This way your child is more likely to be tired when you want them to be tired.
• Have a consistent, calming, and nurturing bedtime routine. Try to lower the energy level, perhaps with a bath and then some snuggling and reading stories. You want to help them wind down, and also be sure they end the day feeling loved.
• If your child has a hard time going to bed alone, it’s okay to sit in the room and ease yourself out bit by bit after lights are out (you can literally move closer and closer to the door). Try to gradually shorten the time you are in the room.
• If your child gets out of bed, bring them back to their bed. This is the hard part: your child won’t like it, and it can be exhausting for you if they keep creeping out of their bed and into yours. But if you give in and let them stay in your room, they will stay in your room. Every night.
• Use incentives. Make sure your child gets major kudos for any progress at all — and maybe earns something extra for staying in their own bed all night. Try to steer away from things, if possible, and think more about quality time (an extra story, a fun outing).

If nothing is working, or your child is really upset, talk to your doctor. There may be more going on, and the two of you can work together to figure things out and help your child. Both of you deserve a restful night’s sleep.

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Claire McCarthy, MD, Senior Faculty Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

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Do you follow certain social media creators, music artists, actors, athletes, or other famous people? Are you a huge fan of particular fictional characters from a book, TV show, or movie? Perhaps you check in with them daily because you feel a connection, care about them, or just love keeping up with the minutiae of their lives.

These one-sided emotional ties to people you don't actually know (or those who don't actually exist) are called parasocial relationships. Like all relationships, they come with risks and benefits, says Arthur C. Brooks, a social scientist, best-selling author, and professor at both the Harvard Kennedy School and the Harvard Business School.

Why do we develop parasocial relationships?

Parasocial relationships tend to occur because of our natural tendency to link to others.

"Humans have evolved to thrive in groups, probably because 250,000 years ago you needed to rely on other people to survive by building social relationships. And so we become attracted to and care about people if we have a regular enough exposure to them," says Brooks.

We are all exposed regularly to tiny details about celebrities and fictional characters, watching their days unfold on social media or learning about them from a TV show or book. What hooks us is the emotional connection, especially if the person is exciting or compelling.

"That's the secret to the success of the Harry Potter book series and the TV show Breaking Bad. The writing is supposed to engage you emotionally," Brooks says. "People can form a bond even if the characters are psychopaths."

The upsides of parasocial relationships

Parasocial relationships can be a nice complement to your life. They might entertain you, inspire you, educate you, or bring you comfort. You might feel less lonely or like you're part of a tight group or a cultural moment, a feeling the shows Friends and Game of Thrones fostered for many people.

Bonding emotionally with famous or fictional people might also shape people's values. For example, children might learn lessons about right and wrong from characters they connect with on shows such as Sesame Street or Bluey. Teens or adults might feel moved to work harder if they're attached to champion athletes, or do good deeds if they admire selfless leaders.

One study of more than 300 people ages 18 to 35 even found that parasocial relationships might help reduce the stigma of mental health conditions. All participants watched one video of someone who shared personal information aimed at creating a social bond. Then, some participants also watched a video of the content creator sharing his challenges with bipolar disorder. Those who saw both videos scored lower on measures of prejudice about mental health conditions than those who only saw the first video.

The downsides of parasocial relationships

While parasocial relationships can enrich your life, these one-sided affairs can also hurt you.

• They won't love you back. "They're like fake food. They taste good, but they have no nutritional content and won't meet your needs. You need to love and be loved in return to thrive," Brooks says.
• They might contribute to loneliness and isolation if you rely on them too much. Loneliness and isolation are linked to increased risks of many chronic health problems such as depression, anxiety, dementia, and heart disease, and even premature death.
• They might have a negative influence on you. Are you picking up unhealthy ideas from the people you follow? Brooks says this should be a special concern for parents whose kids have parasocial relationships: The messages kids glean might be at odds with your values — perhaps because they are controversial political or adult themes.

Navigating parasocial relationships

A dollop of parasocial relationships in your life is fine as long as they don't crowd out real-life bonds or warp your thinking and values. But how would you know if this was becoming an issue?

Two red alerts:

• Ask yourself if you're too attached. For example, are you skipping dinner with friends because you prefer watching a TV show with a character you care about and want to connect with?
• Be wary. "If someone is trying to brainwash you, saying, 'I'm your friend, you can trust me,' that person is using a personal social bond to get you to do something — like vote a certain way," Brooks says. He points out that social media stars try to establish parasocial relationships with followers to get more clicks and make money. "That's what the new economy is all about — monetizing parasocial relationships on a mass scale," Brooks says.

Shifting from parasocial relationship to deeper connections

Parasocial relationships fill a need. Social scrolling, streaming shows, or following celebs may tamp down loneliness or offer curated moments of joy and connection. But if you're leaning too hard on these one-sided relationships, Brooks advises taking a hard look at what's missing from your life.

Forging warm connections in real life is worthwhile, though it isn't always easy. "It's a tall order for people who are shut-ins or introverted or don't have social skills, but you can start small. Have dinner with a friend. Spend more time with your family. Get more human eye contact. Touch, such as a hug, releases the bonding hormone oxytocin in the brain," Brooks suggests. "You'll care less about the characters and get what you really need."

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By the first week in September this year, US health officials had already tallied 247 cases of measles, a highly contagious illness. For perspective, in 2023, 59 measles cases were reported during the full year.

This isn’t surprising, as vaccination rates for preventable childhood illnesses have decreased, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Between the 2019–2020 school year and the 2022–2023 school year, the percentage of fully immunized kindergarteners dropped from 95% to 93%.

Even a small decline like this affects herd immunity that helps protect our communities. (Herd immunity occurs when there are enough immunized people to make spread of an illness among unimmunized people less likely.) For measles, we need 95% of people — children and adults — to be immunized to achieve herd immunity.

How do vaccines help children?

The vaccines given before kindergarten protect children against serious illnesses and possible hospitalizations or even deaths:

• diphtheria, a serious respiratory illness
• hepatitis B and hepatitis A, both infections of the liver. Hepatitis B infections can be chronic and lead to liver damage.
• pneumococcus and Haemophilus Influenzae, bacteria that can cause serious infections
• measles, which can cause pneumonia and neurological problems
• mumps, which causes swollen glands in the neck and can sometimes lead to complications
• pertussis (whooping cough), which can be fatal in infants
• polio, which can cause a paralysis that can be fatal
• rotavirus, a diarrhea that can lead to serious dehydration in young infants
• rubella, or German measles. If women catch it during pregnancy, it can lead to miscarriage or birth defects.
• varicella (chickenpox). While most infections are mild, the rash caused by chickenpox can get infected, and the virus itself can affect the lungs or brain.

What to know about vaccine exemptions and schedule changes

The most concerning part of the CDC report is that it’s not just that families got behind in their doctor visits, it’s that more are choosing not to vaccinate. Vaccine exemptions rose from 0.4% to 3% in the 2022–2023 school year. That 3% is an average; 10 states have exemption rates over 5% (Idaho’s exemption rate was 12.1%).

Some parents have children vaccinated, but alter the schedule. In a 2020 study, researchers found that only 63% of families followed the recommended vaccination schedule for their children. Among those who didn’t, the majority followed an alternate schedule, spacing vaccines out, skipping some, or doing a combination of both.

But vaccines are given on a schedule for a reason: to protect children from vaccine-preventable disease. Experts designed the schedule so that children get protection when they need it — and the doses are timed so the vaccine itself can have the best effect. When parents don’t follow the schedule, their children may not be protected.

Worried about getting several vaccines at once?

Parents sometimes worry about giving several vaccines at once, something that the schedule calls for, especially at the 2-, 4-, and 6-month visits. Not only is it safe, but when parents spread out the schedule it takes longer before the child is protected, leaving babies vulnerable to these diseases. It also means more visits to the doctor: the study found that babies whose parents used an alternate schedule had three more vaccination visits than babies whose parents followed the recommended schedule.

Worried about side effects?

Parents also worry about side effects of vaccines and other risks, often fueled by information they get on social media. Not every person who gets these infections has a serious case or complications. But the risk of a complication of the disease is always higher than the risk of the vaccine, an important fact that sometimes gets lost in the vaccine discussion.

When children get behind on vaccines, they are more likely to catch vaccine-preventable illnesses — which is not only dangerous for them, but also for those around them who aren’t vaccinated, as we have seen in measles outbreaks. It is not just children whose parents choose not to vaccinate them that are at risk, but also children who can’t be vaccinated, such as newborns or those who are taking medications that suppress the immune system. Adults with suppressed immune systems can be at risk too. Parents often forget that the decisions they make about immunization affect more people than just their child.

How can you learn more about vaccines?

It’s normal for parents to have questions and worry about medical treatments given to their children. After all, it’s a parent’s job to worry. But as parents question and worry, it’s really important that they get reliable medical information from expert sources. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, as well as Immunize.org and the American Academy of Pediatrics, have lots of accurate and useful information, and parents should always talk to their child’s doctor if they have concerns.

The bottom line for parents

Think long and hard, and get information from reliable sources, before you change your child’s vaccine schedule. The schedule is there to protect your child — and everyone around your child.

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